PRODOUCTIVITY IS NOT A SYNONYM FOR HAPPINESS

Have you recently discovered that having a stress ball isn't for throwing at people who stress you out? 

Everyone has stress. It's a response to challenges in life. And let's face it, a life without challenges would be dreary and boring.

If you’re a writer, stress manifests itself when you write and when you don’t. If the writing flows, we say we’re in the zone. When it stops, we agonize over how to kick-start ourselves. When we end a piece, we fuss over the editing process. And when we’re finally finished with it, we ponder whether our creation is worthy enough, then lapse into the insecurity of “what will we write next”?

I’ve decided, after a half-dozen books, there is no happy medium to getting the right balance in life that will completely relieve stress levels. But there are small things that everyone who is stressed can do to ease  anxieties.

We all know we have to eat healthy and exercise, but there are other things to consider. One is to stay as organized as possible, and simplify routines, commitments, and clutter. A messy desk doesn’t cause us stress. Not finding the papers we need which are buried in a chaotic heap on our desks causes us to stress.

We also need to let go of multi-tasking constantly and slow down. We’re in a society that says we can do it all. We want to accomplish a task, but not upset our family’s routine or our commitments to others, so we rush, rush, rush. Maybe it’s time to go back to the single task philosophy our parents used. Maybe it’s time to streamline our time and eliminate unnecessary commitments. Instead of the mental “to do” list which stretches for miles in our mind, it’s time to write down a realistic “to do” list and only put down five essential tasks we want to complete in a given time.                                                                                             

And lastly, here is my favorite de-stressor idea. I’m giving myself permission to have free time for myself—whether it’s to do a hobby, read, travel, or just take time off from writing without guilt. Life doesn’t have to be about always accomplishing things—always placing the next word on the page or doing the next to-do chore. After all, productivity has never been a synonym for happiness.

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MARCH COMES MARCHING IN

Okay, I admit it, I’m not a fan of February. Every year, I wish it would fly by and push us into March. After the holidays, February brings holiday bills to pay, freezing temperatures in the northern regions, hibernation tendencies, snow, lack of light, more snow, colds, flu and then…more non-melting, dirty snow with ice. It’s a bleak, long, tedious month, despite the fewest number of days. But to February's credit, it ushers in March.

March in Pennsylvania is cheered on by the arrival of spring in the Northern Hemisphere, featuring rising temperatures, longer days, and vibrant, but unpredictable weather. It’s Women’s History Month, Ides of March, Johnny Appleseed Day, St. Patrick’s Day, Spring Equinox, and a full lunar blood moon that looks red on March 3^rd.

For me, it’s a joyful time. Rains will come, but they will leave.

I search my flower beds for new shoots and check the lilac buds to see if I’ll have blooms in April. Daffodils, crocus, snowdrops, tulips, and forsythia burst forth to color the dreary landscape. In the words of Bishop Reginald Heber: “Spring unlocks the flowers to paint the laughing soil.”

Rabbits scurry over the yard looking for tasty new shoots. The neighborhood possum checks out the fallen sunflower seeds below the bird feeder. Canada geese flying overhead sing their tunes of spring. Their sounds remind me to check my many birdhouses which may need paint or repairs before they can be hung outside.

March is the time to make time and do the things we love after a cold winter. You might find me scrutinizing the colorful seed packets on display at a local store—or staring into space and making a mental list of vegetables and herbs to plant in our bucket garden in May. Or maybe I’ll just stare at the blue sky and watch the clouds sail by in a brisk spring wind.

  

It’s March. It’s spring. Fresh breeze and warm sun. The best time for new beginnings is now.

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VALENTINE'S DAY - and a - SWEET KISS!

 In honor of Valentine's Day, I'm posting an excerpt from SWEET KISS, where Kate Clark, owner of the coffee shop, tells quirky post mistress, Eva May Poole, about the legend of Valentine's Day.  

     

        “Hey, Eva May, did you know there’s a legend of how Valentine’s Day came about?" Kate asked and looked over at the post mistress."It’s credited to St. Valentine of Rome during the reign of Emperor Claudius II. Claudius was unable to get soldiers to join his army and thought the reason was because men did not want to leave their wives and families so he cancelled all marriages and engagements in Rome. A romantic at heart, a priest of Rome, Saint Valentine, defied Claudius's unjustified order. Along with Saint Marius, St. Valentine secretly married the couples.”     

          “Is he still doing it?” Eva May asked.

          Kate closed her eyes and took a deep breath. She heard her friend, Melanie, beside her, mutter, “Tell her, yes. What the heck? 270 AD until now? What' s a couple of years?"  

          Kate choked back a laugh.  

 

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NATIONAL COMPLIMENT DAY - January 24th

Hello 2026! Good-bye 2025.

It’s been a long year. A wild ride. A year when negativity has reigned 365 days on the radio, television, internet, and in our lives. Whenever someone tells us to be thankful for the blessings in our lives, it’s a tough rule to follow, especially when we feel our calm, once functional world is now not the same.                

National Compliment Day on January 24th offers a wonderful way to brighten someone's day or to give credit for a job well done! It’s a day to give an extra compliment not only on January 24^th, but also any time one is deserved.

A compliment has a powerful effect. It can empower confidence in a child. Allow a person to feel worthy. Validate someone's hard work. A compliment not only improves the receiver's mood, but also it says something about the giver. It tells them you’ve noticed. Whether we recognize someone's achievement or their classic style, a compliment can go a long way.

However, in all our attempts to stay positive, we also need to navigate negativity. This includes actively reframing our thoughts and shifting our focus by practicing mindfulness, gratitude, and self-compassion. 

It also means we may have to set boundaries and limit exposure to negative environments or people. It might mean we may have to walk away. It also involves recognizing negative patterns, challenging their validity, and consciously choosing to engage in positive actions and seek uplifting experiences instead. 

To further make our lives more pleasurable, we need to surround ourselves with uplifting, positive people who share and support our goals. Engaging in enjoyable hobbies or activities like reading, exercising, listening to music, for example, also helps to disengage from negativity.

Whatever day, whether you’re reading this or currently having one of those negative moments, take some time to treat yourself with kindness and pass it on to others...and especially be sure to do it on "National Compliment Day," January 24th! 

 

 

 

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